01. What is happy memory you have that involves your father?
Being apart from my father for 32 years was hard for me but in 2005 I decided to move to Iowa to care for him. He was turning 100 that year.
02. What is sadder memory that involves him?
Not being close to him as a child. He was raised to work and care for the family and with very little interaction.
03. What is trait you admire in your father?
He is always positive, never negative even at 103. Always caring for others. Always happy.
04. What is a trait that frustrates you or comes between you two?
Not showing affection to mom or me. It has affected me in my relationship with my daughter and other family members and friends.
05. When was the last time you spoke and what was the general context/mood of the conversation?
I see him everyday and at age 103 some days are better than others. Some days like today he was very alert and could carry on a conversation without much difficulty.
06. What is something that has been left unsaid or difficult to say to him?
Everyone feel I should tell my dad is it OK to just let go and die. He seems to be waiting to make sure I’ll be ok. My husband passed about 3 years ago and I feel he wants to make sure I’m OK. I try to reassure him all the time but I just can’t say “dad it’s OK to go be with mom.”
01. What is happy memory you have that involves your father?
On Sundays we would go to the park (Central Park) with Mariah and her dad. It was always lots of fun.
02. What is sadder memory that involves him?
Seeing him deteriorate now – with dementia – specifically having to change his diapers.
03. What is trait you admire in your father?
Resourceful imagination – to overcome terrible life situations out of his control (i.e. his childhood).
04. What is a trait that frustrates you or comes between you two?
His inability to listen, to me or to others.
05. When was the last time you spoke and what was the general context/mood of the conversation?
2 days ago we spoke on the phone (October. 15) and the tone was very confused about where he was living…
06. What is something that has been left unsaid or difficult to say to him?
I would remind him during the period we didn’t get along I still understood he loved me and I loved him. Now I would want him to know we always love him through his illness
1 comment:
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